I read all the books, tried to follow advice here, and tried my best, doing the things I thought were "correct".
It did no good. Nothing did. I disagree that she showed any signs of reaching out. You had to be there. If she tried to be nice it was manipulative to get her way. All she has done for the past 19 months is to move on without me and put me down.
...and Jeff...I understand this comment. I know. Sometimes...people really CAN'T know what' going on, and, our words are all that they can go on. Sometimes in haste we leave small details out...sometimes...we put too much in.
No one knows unless you can walk in a person's shoes.
After all this time, look at how much activity your thread has generated. I still learn and, like you, I hope I haven't scared off lissie and BBA. I've always wanted to be a pool boy.
Your last post is the best yet. Stay strong Jeff. We all know that you didn't 'fail'. You...we..made mistakes. We learn. We try to grow.
BTW.....at least you didn't cut up a credit card in front of your W. Don't feel so bad.
Frank
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
