Me 37 Husband 43 M 12 years Daughter 13 Son 11 Bomb Jan 2006 OW(possible X-OW) 28 and 7 months pregnant
I haven't posted on here in months. I first came to this website in February of 2006. I won't try to rehash all that has happened during the last year and a half. Even though all of our situations are different, they are oddly familiar to all of us too. Needless to say, my husband is still in a mid-life crisis.
After breaking up with his OW in October of 2006, he spent the next four months telling me he wasn't sure what he wanted. Christmas was a very emotional time for us as he seemed closer to me and the kids than ever before. He begged me not to walk away or give up on him, then at the end of January 2007, he ended up choosing divorce over reconciliation. He went back to the other woman for exactly one week before ending it with her again. In March he filed for divorce, and then in April he informed me that the OW was pregnant with his child. Things were rough for both of us during this time, about a month went by with him leaning on me because the OW was being difficult with him, and she refused to prove the pregnancy.
In June, it all fell apart, he told me he was going to go back to the OW because "that child deserved a father just like our kids had when they were little," and we basically stopped talking to each other. OW refused to take him back because she wasn't sure she could trust him. Contact between him and our kids has become almost zero. The OW has been difficult with him, and has demanded that he stay away from her during the pregnancy. He has not seen her since April when she broke the pregnancy news to him. I will admit she knows how to play the game, because this has only made him rebuild the fantasy he had in his head. She can do no wrong, and I am an evil, conniving, manipulative b#@** that ruined his life.
In two weeks, we have the final hearing for our divorce. In two months, his other woman will give birth to his daughter. I am struggling to deal with everything that has happened within the last two years. I guess I need to center myself again and my first thought was to come back here. Coming to this board was my salvation during those first dark days after finding out about the other woman. I learned to get a life when I was here, and I did great with that until recently when I realized that my "get a life" still hinged on "get a life, but not too much of one in case he comes back." My husband is not coming back, and I need to get a life for real this time.
Whether or not anyone has any helpful comments or not, I still intend to journal here during the next few weeks as I face the end of my marriage, and the beginning of my new life. Thank you to anyone who helped me before when I was here, and thanks to anyone reading this now.
