You're right that a man who believes himself to be in a committed R would not be able to process what the woman is doing by strutting her stuff in a sexually available way.
Yep. I am always sexual. (except when Ive been emasculated. Maybe I will have the opportunity to work on that in the future.) That does not make me sexually available.
What the woman wants is for the man to woo her again
Im not going to say, no thats not what you want. I will say, what you are saying, and what that means to a man who has been taught to pat the bunny are going to create entirely differant scenario's in their individual heads.
How can you more clearly explain, 'I want to be woo'ed.' Right now most guys are thinking, flowers, dinner, jewelry....
Meaning they woo and marry a woman and feel like their work is done and they have sex available when needed. Yeah that is ridiculous. They think they havent changed from the beginning of the R.... How have they changed?
If I recall your X started to throw herself at other men and you didn't respond. She made herself available to him and when he would do something would come and tell me about it. It was confusion at first. My doing nothing hurt her. NMJ. Wasnt in the verbal contract or the legal contract. I will not be juiced. Her choice shocked me. JUICE!!. LOL. Not how she wanted though. Poof.
What she was trying to do was show that she hadn't been caught and killed and she wanted you to re-engage with the chase. I will never ever ever chase. Ever. Doesnt work. I didnt chase her to cause the reconcil. So if you want to help guys understand, youll have to explain better. If not... thats ok.
Those lice ridden pirates start to look more interesting when you've been left for dead on the shelf by a pen-pushing landlubber. LOL. Touche'
