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Martelo,

Did you want to cuddle or were you trying to cuddle your way into her pants?

At first I really was trying to just cuddle. Frankly I wasn't really in the mood for sex, haven't been in awhile. I'm afraid that perhaps the pills I'm taking are doing a number of me. Really afraid. So my second comment was (I'm thinking now, correct me if I'm wrong) a stupid segue caused by a supressed feeling of being hurt by "rejection" and a supressed feeling of fear that I'm losing my sexual desire. I can see how I torpedoed myself with the second comment, everything beyond that was just useless.

If by "mystery" you mean a guy with game & in the guy with the stupid hat I think
you should really look at the Seduction stuff that is out there and ask you self if you
want to put on an act and be loved for that or do you want to be free to reveal yourself and be loved for that. There is some good information out there but allot of it is just a joke.

I agree, it was just a stupid attempt by me (I'm as bad at it with blackfoot as I am with my W) to be funny. Blackfoot and that guy Mystery do have the similarity that they radiate a lot of confidence. But the similarity ends there. Actually my W and I caught part of the show and we both agreed that the "lessons" he is teaching those guys are only going to give them a temporary good feeling, that will explode on them when (if ever) they get into an LTR.

For the purpose of brevity I'll just assume that you wanted both really. As a nice guy
you may have to go out of your way to ask for exactly what you want directly and uncensored. Not because your going to get the outcome you want but to present and reveal yourself.

I do want both (well, beyond the hopefully temporary supression I am feeling). I have been forthright with my W about what I want, but I can see how I then go out and torpedo myself with interactions like the one I presented.

In the situation you've posted seems to me you're talking about two things cuddling a need for affection with non sexual intimacy and sex. If your really wanting sex in the scenario you never actually were rejected for it if she's just turning down your invitations for a "cuddle".

I can see how my comments led her to believe that. Stupid.

Do you think your wife may have stayed up late to avoid the "cuddle" that you were waiting for? Could you see her doing this if the invitation to "cuddle" was loaded.

I can see how she could have acted that way. Granted, the staying up late on the computer wasn't an isolated incident. Now that I think about it, the very act of her sitting down at the computer created an anger in me that colored the whole incident. I was doomed to fail before I ever began because wasn't aware of myself. Stupid.

Anyway I've made a big assumption here and could be totally wrong so I'll stop writing.

Thanks for your comments Martelo

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