"Going Dark" - 101

[nephartiti]

Same here. The longer he is away, the easier it seems to be for him to stay that way. He doesn't even call to check on the kids anymore. Hasn't seen them in over a week and that was only because I lapsed and showed up at his eye doctor appt. That royally pissed him off.

He moved out on the 19th, and we've had very little contact. He's asked to see the kids a few times, but has only followed through once. A handful of times he's said he's coming, then just doesn't show or call.

He's playing games with the money.

Seems like he is taking walking away to the extreme.

However, the way I see it, it can't get much worse. So what do I have to lose by going dark? It may work. I've seen it work for others like 789 and TOH seems to be getting a response too. Looks like it typically takes 2-3 weeks before a anything happens. We just have to be patient and try to have faith. If we can stick to it, we have a chance.

It's hard not to react to fear and panic, but we have to rise above our fear. The way I see it, if the worse happens (H gets content to be w/out us and files for D), then I've already begun to learn how to live w/out him. This is scary, but it prepares myself and our two small children no matter what.

I've decided to try to wait out the A with OW til the end of the year and then re-evaluate our sitch. Seems like a long time, but is small when I compare it to the length of a lifetime.

Good luck, everyone!