Markyb, sorry I missed your call this evening. Getting my own PMA on, and you know what I mean by that.
Look, you have to stop taking full accountability for all this. Your wife shares in this. You told me that she did not communicate certain things with you a while back, such as signing for a refinance, she didn't always let you know how uncomfortable she was with financial issues. Hell, she just told you that if you did other work, along with the stuff you're doing now, it would have been different. Where was all that communication a year or more ago?
My main thing is, and I've told you this, is that time will make all of this seem so very different that what it is now. My guess? You will have another chance with her, ONLY, and I mean, ONLY if you are willing to accept that she is not being who you want her to be right now. The OM thing? Sorry, it sucks, but you have to get over it. Don't assume what is going on; you don't know. Don't compare it to the f'n horror that I'm going through (which you know all about), because it isn't always this way. M - just give it some time my friend. Listen to Frank, work on yourself, get YOU straight. She will notice, I'm sure of it. She will see you for who you really are; a good husband, a great father. What woman wants any more than that? Is she seeing temp OM as that? Hell NO! Not a chance. He strokes her ego, but in the end, he's an a-hole. You know it, she knows it. She does.......
Come on M, step it up. Screw on your PMA and fight for this, don't give up. My new female "friend" that I told you about gave me a bracelet stating "Make the Impossible Possible". I like that. I showed it to my D7 and asked her what she thought it meant, she said "Don't Give Up". Smart girl, to be sure. I love her just like you love your girl, with the same name. They are why we can put up with this, why we can look twenty years ahead and say today's BS won't matter. Let's get through this, do what we must, and make our marriages work. It can be done. Right Frank????
M - you can do this. Of that, I'm certain.
DNQ
Me: 39 WAW: 40 S10, D7, S6 Bomb #1 - 12-24-06: Move out (ILYBNILWY - admitted '05 PA) Move back: 3-2-07 (W: I still want to be married to you) Bomb # 2 - 4-11-07: (W: Can't do this - never loved you) Move out again: 4-29-07 Dark: 6-8-07
