Now I've done it

[mkultra]

Your plan sounds good except the finances. If seeing the bills means you are snoopingyou need to find another way. Maybe you can tell him that the cell and credit bills are exposing you to his affair and you need to find another way to handle finances. Otherwise your snooping will continue and that is bad for both of you. I had no idea how obsessed my H was until I saw the phone bill. It is crazy. Maybe H's get obsessed with the OW and have to call them all the time because they are so insecure and need a lot of reassurance. Maybe the OW are kind of like wh#$ and WS need control? I hate to dehumanize our Hs but that is uncharactersitic of a healthy man.