Thanks so much for your post..U are a sweetie for visiting..
Been busy starting my business. School starts next Monday as I will be teaching two freshman writing courses a week. Went to a substitute orientation at my kids school as well. Guess you could say I was a little busy..
Good news is that it looks like I will be getting office space in an adorable Victorian home a few blocks from my house. So, when I tutor, the kids can just walk from school or their homes. The place is great and ironically that is where my brother is as well.He retired a few years ago and is in the process of writing his third book..I guess we have the writing gene..
New Guy great. We all went to the beach today and had a nice weekend. His D is a sweetie but it hasn't been easy for the poor thing to be hauled back and forth all summer between homes. He has her 50% of the time and when her mom has her, she dumps her at three different places..It makes my stomach turn. The poor thing is sleeping on couches here and there..has no idea whether she is coming or going..And CRAVES stablity..(don't we all)
So, the best I can do is make sure she is happy and feels like my place is a safe haven for her. I do encourage New Guy to spend one on one time with her as it is so important for her to be alone with her daddy.
I do have a glich in the XH thing again..surprise surpise.
He wants to take the kids to a Club Med vacation to the Dominican Republic with the Ow. As you have read from my previous posts she is not fit to be in the same room with my kids nevermind on a vacation with them. Based on the circumstances and the non-stable environment I am not condoning the trip. If he wants to take the kids away, he can do it in the country. It's ridiculous, anyway, because the OW just wants to stick the kids in camps so she and my Xh can have time to themselves.
I am in the process of getting legal support to not let her be alone with the kids..I am just not looking forward to the wrath of my Xh when I put my foot down. It is so much easier to turn a blind eye and and let the kids go. I think it great he wants to take off and go on vacation but even my S said isn't the whole idea of a vacation is to spend time togehter and not be socked into daycare in the Caribbean?
So, that is my dilemma.
I would be curious as to what other DBers have faced this out of the country dilemma? My Xh is not the most stable guy so international travel scares the bejesus out of me. My kids are only 10 and 13 and have been around horrific fights between the X and Ow. I am having a hard time with putting my foot down and not having everyone interpret my disapproval as personal..Like I don't want Xh and OW to go away.
I could care less if they lived on an island for that matter..just not with the kids.
My 13 year old son is having a hard time with understanding my decision although he is not thrilled to go. He thinks it's a personal thing between XH and myself..oh well. I don't need to explain it and I get to make the final call. Although XH is such a putz I bet he purchased the tickets.
BTW he didn't ask me to take the kids..he told me..
Oh well..
off to bed..we are doing just fine..I am going to ride this all out and get my T to address a letter to my XH on the kids behalf.
I mean, my T told me if the OW steps out of line ONE MORE tIME he was going to report her to youth and family services and my X knows that..And then he plans a vacations with her and my kids.
