MoJo "Why does HD guy X desperately want to have sex with his wife who weighs 300 lbs. and no longer has breasts and yet my H says the reason he doesn't want to have sex with me is that I am just moderately overweight and wear some not-so-attractive t-shirts?"
Facts, 189#, 5’4”, part of one breast removed. I wan never into style. Foe me, if it is clean, that I good enough most of the time.
The only answer I could come up with was HD guy X loves his wife and my H doesn't love me. HD guy isn’t as self-centered as your 2BX. HD guy wasn’t pampered like your 2BX. HD guy has a bit more empathy for people than your 2BX. HD guy knows the W has her preferences and needs. Life isn’t only about him. HD guy is morally opposed to a D or a separation so tries to work with what is.
Does the HD guy love his w more than your 2BX? Yes but also is hesitant to lose the family as it is and thinks things can improve, but knows they might not improve.
I feel like a lot of men on this BB are still in denial that the female "just sex" drive is mostly masochistic in nature. That is probably because boys/men are taught over and over again that the way to get a woman to have sex with you is to "pat the bunny."
Give an example of just sex being masochistic.
Maybe patting the bunny and feeding the cow was over done. When I tried to do something different, I got complaints. Now I hear, ignore the complaints (I think any way) now I have to spank the monkey.
I think our R is so far from monkey spanking, I wonder where to begin.
" You like it when I go deep, don't you?" and me replying "Yes.No"
All I ever heard was Ouch.
Does that explain why I pat the bunny, feed the cow, and don’t spank the monkey? I thought I was doing it to please BB, after all she thinks most men are selfish.
