Newcomer in Pain

[GainingStrength]

J - Be glad you are where you are today. It's 109 here in southern California.

Thanks for all the info on your colorful family. It does add some perspective to it all.

Right now today, I'm starting to train myself to embrace this divorce as the right thing to happen. This is partly because I can't take this much pain indefinitely, because if I "go with what's going to happen anyway I'll be less vulnerable, because my W does have some pretty nasty traits that were apparent before the A or D started, and because I really am 23 years older than her and maybe she does need a younger man (OM is 38, W is 40).

I still love her but I cannot change the fact of her intense desire for the D so that she can have her "Big Life" and big new house with the OM (along with her MLC). Therefore, I think I need to focus more on detaching than DBing (although I have been told that the two go hand in hand).

Anyway, I do run on. Thank you for your words and your help.

Larry