first, yes it's Alaska. I'm fine, especially compared to you. WTH??!! She is so screwed up. You asked a question about when the WAS figures out the pain isn't worth it and I posted recently about that, but will repeat a few things I've seen.
My uncle left my lovely aunt decades ago, for OW. First off it wasn't his first A. Second, the OW's h killed himself! This left uncle feeling guilty so he married OW and raised HER kids, never mind about his own kids with aunt. Years passed and OW--ie, wife #2, CALLS MY AUNT to ask where Uncle is, as in, he was cheating AGAIN...on HER! I can only imagine what it took for OW to call my aunt. Anyhow, my aunt said it suddenly dawned on her what a favor uncle had done by leaving her. So many years she DID NOT have that stomach ache feeling that he was cheating on her, as he still would have been. She remarried and that lasted 25 years; until her 2nd h died. She is NOW in a happy new R, and btw, she is 70, and says the "sex is great." (What an inspiration!) Aunt says she is grateful about SO much pain she didn't have to experience, thanks to him leaving. AND, btw, this uncle told his own mother that if he'd known how much pain this was going to cause everyone, he'd never have had the A....
ALso, my brother in law left my older sister, after 22 years of M and 3 kids, and her putting him through law school. Took two years for her to resume dating and then she met a guy who worshipped the ground she walks on. He may have his issues, but he DOES love my sister. She remarried, and she IS happier now than she was with her first h. But she still feels painful memories due to the hurt and the fact that they had 3 kids...ANYHOW, a month before her remarriage, her ex h called to tell her he "f----- up", and that he "gets it" and that he was/is sorry. HE also remarried...a woman whom HE refers to as "high maintenance." He is less happy in his 2nd M, and my sister is more happy in hers....go figure.
And fwiw, I have 2 relatives who divorced; only to remarry their spouses later on. Both said the 2nd time around was better. It happens. (((hugs)) j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
