Here's another assumption on my part. When I don't agree with you or give you repeated reason for why I want to see changes in my wife rather than work on myself, am I coming across to you as your ex?
No.
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but for you to assume that I am upping my posts to get my validation 'fix' is off, and actually contradicts exactly what I've been talking about.
I agree, which is what I stated earlier. I too was wondering about this contradiction.
My posts did not increase for me to get a validation fix. You said that, not me (that I was posting more to keep my validation coming in). YOUR assumption brought about the notion of me contradicting myself.
I did not increase my posts for validation. There is no contradiction. Other than what YOU are trying to put here.
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IMO there is a VERY fine line between pure empathy and unconsciously re=experiencing past hurts.
Which is one, of many many reasons, for managing emotions. I'm not quite sure why you are so insistant in convincing me that you have a better understanding of my feelings than I do...
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But one of my questions still remains... why would your posting increase so much because you care?
It didn't and I never said that is why my posting increased. YOU did.
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Just because you care so much doesn't mean you should or need to up the involvement so much.
I never said it did, Cobra. I never said it didn't.
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Is there something else beneath the two that could explain some of the difference and maybe help to answer your question of why you care so much?
I'm not really worried about why I care so much. I really like that about me, actually. But... it can trip me up. That is what **I** am concerned about.
You want to know the reason why my number of posts went up? Because I was posting more.
