My wife wants out !!

[GK99]

She was waiting for me to take on additional jobs to bring money in but I never did. If I had done this she would have not lost respect for me.

Markyb...this is not your fault. Your W sounds very immature. She is justifying her decisions with this BS. She is every bit as accountable to your M as you, and yet she is the one who is giving up and blaming you on the way out.

As I have posted previously, she feels that I ruined our future together and gave her no reasons to stay as a family. Her position is that I never had a Plan B and just didn't get anything under control.

Again, a sign of her immaturity. Where was she in helping with this "Plan B"?

In essence, her life is better without me in it every day and that she will rebuild on her own.

Unfortunately, that is how she feels right now and nothing you can do will change that. She may or may not come to realize she is wrong - but you can't worry about that. I'm in the exact same boat right now. I have accepted that I cannot control what she will do. I can, however, control what I do. And, to be honest, I don't want someone in my life who will walk away so easily. Someone once said that our WAW's are giving up someone who loved them, and we are giving up someone who never truly loved us. I can live with that.