Well this afternoons latest info. Wife just called, this is to show you how stupid, naive, or just how damn long it has been.
W - I just called to let you know "s" is going to be spending the night with a friend of his. M - Okay, well we can BBQ tomorrow night if you want. Make sure he calls me later to tell me goodnight. W - You are still coming over to BBQ with me dummy, why do you think I found a place for him to spend the night. M - Oh, oh, ooohhhhhhhhhhh, okay, um what time do you want me to come over. W - NOW !!!
I just can't say "NO" to this invite, I don't care if it is right or wrong.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
The night went awesome, I came home and she went to get our S, they will call me in an hour or two to come over, our S has no idea yet.
We actually talked a lot, not just about us, but about everything. We rented a bunch of movies, every thing from comedy to mushy stuff. We ended up finally going to bed around 1 am, and NO we did not have sex, a mutual decision for right now, but slept with her in my arms all night long in the buff . As for right now we are going to stay the way we are at least as far as our S knows, we do not want him confused with what is going on. She has told her parents what is going on, but no one else, I have told no one because in all reality, I don't want to look like an idiot if it does not come to fruitation.
We are going to be seeing each other every day but will be sleeping in separate apartments for now, about a month or so. We will be going out weekly by ourselves and more often with our S. We/She wants to make sure that she wants me back for the right reasons, she thinks she does, but really wants to be positive so we do not find ourselves in this position again in a few months.
To answer your question JR, I did nothing but started to live my own life more and more as time went on. As the weeks and months went by I was calling less and less to the point I only called to talk to our S. I started going out with friends again, she stopped hearing from my/our friends about her from me. In the beginning she truly thought my stopping drinking was nothing more than an act and either I would start up again or was hiding it from her since we were no longer together, she slowly found out from others that I actually was still not drinking.
In talking last night, the drinking was 100% the reason she wanted the divorce, nothing more, nothing less. Then after we separated it became that and my sobbing, crying, begging that turned her off big time. It took these next 5 months or so of me not doing that anymore and her to realize that I had stopped drinking even with her not in my life. As time went on she said she came to a point about a month ago or so is when she realized or felt that I really did not give a sh*t about what she did or if she divorced me. That is when she started acting out making comments about filing and seeing OM even though they were lies, she was hoping to get me mad and make me fight for her, this lasted all the way up until last Monday. She then ended up calling in sick to work for the rest of the week because she couldn't stop crying according to her. That is about it.
We both realize we have a long way to go, we did talk about how hard it would be to fix all the damage from our marriage and the last 6 months. We have agreed to do it together and let each other vent our frustrations from time to time knowing that it will be part of the process.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
