As I have posted previously, she feels that I ruined our future together and gave her no reasons to stay as a family. Her position is that I never had a Plan B and just didn't get anything under control. She is pushing to go to a mediator to expedite our D.
That's her view today. She takes no responsibility for being your 'partner', just blame for you not doing what she expected from you.
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I want so much to keep my family together but she doesn't. Her view is that I cannot be there to give us the financial support and because there is too much damage already done. In essence, her life is better without me in it every day and that she will rebuild on her own.
Then you need to start rebuilding YOUR life, and your self esteem. What are you doing for yourself besides sitting around feeling defeated? This is a turning point in your life, the point where you take the lead and make it work.
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I have come to accept that such a loss of trust and respect is something that can't be overcome if she doesn't want to try. Giving up is her only solution and I must learn to live with her decision.
Bull. She doesn't HAVE to 'try' right now because YOU can simply start BEING the person she trusts and respects. BE the person you want to be and she will see it, sense it and be attracted to it.
And remember, SHE is the one quitting. Not you. She has shown you a flaw in her character. Is that the kind of person you want to be with?
What books are you reading right now? What are you doing to educated yourself on the dynamics of relationships and men / women ways of thinking and feeling?
