I am sure you may have been the same way when you started here.
Yes. I was a mess. I will never deny that. But I also see how being a mess hurt reconciliation chances. I see how being a mess kept me from being farther along in my life. And most of my long-time friend recant the same things.
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You will be there for them when they are ready.
Of course, I will be. But I have to set the stage for that. One of the most satisfying things that people say to me is this. Thank you for saying what you did even though I wasn't ready to listen to it then.
And here's a book for you (not just you MrsH). Stumbling on Happiness by Daniel Gilbert. This may give you insight into some of my ideas. Do a google.
