Now I've done it

[mkultra]

It is good that you are taking some of the accountability. This is good. As far of the MLC there are triggers and indicators, as I have read and experienced. You mentioned your H is around a younger generation, mine also as he is an old man in a punk rock club. Most of my H's transitional friends are not even his age! He does not drive around with carseats anymore! We have had classic triggers. The death of an elderly loved one that many people did not respect. The funeral where not a lot of people even paid respects. His balding head in our family photos. He was jumped and assaulted at work. Job stress. Aging parents. Sense of mortality. And the biggest thing -the birth of our son! Yes. The most joyous thing in the world can create a sense that one's life is over for a man in MLC. Some marriage therapists believe the child centered family is also harmful to a marriage, when all the focus is on the kids. But HELLO you have two babies! I guess they mean to find alone time if at all possible. We practiced and were commited to attachment parenting. Maybe our H's are patrying together as we put our kids to bed every night. Are you even sleeping at all? Is your baby sleeping through the night? Night nursing?