If we try and rush it we too may have neglected a vital lesson.
There is a huge difference between rushing and helping someone get through the journey as quickly as possible. There were times when I tried to rush. That was me. But there were also many people who by being there and making suggestions helped me to get through things more quickly.
The other part of your posts (mainly to me) is an underlying intimation that only the person going through hell can't be helped by the experience of others. You treat it as saving others from themselves. Of course, we can never save someone from themselves if they aren't interested in doing so. But this is an attitude in you, I just don't and can't understand. If you saw someone about to walk off a cliff, the underlying assumption is that they can see what they are doing, they are on their own. While this is an extreme example, the notion hold.
My frame of mind is that if I see someone walking off a cliff, I am going to shout, "hey,crazy legs, you are going to walk off that cliff." Isn't that part of the reason for coming here? When we learn geometry, do we try to replicate the experience of Pythagoras in developing his Theorem or do we read a geometry book? And don't get me wrong, I am fascinated by a good train wreck, but I prefer to prevent it if at all possible.
Yes, our journey is our own, but the human race survived by working with others and learning from others. I am glad that is my world, even though I screw up from time to time. Fortunately, I had wisdom from those before me who at times kept me from walking off that cliff.
