Just wanted to float an idea that I got from a couple of people where I live and I've seen repeated here. My W has been pushing for a dissolution (divorce where both parties agree to terms and both have to be present at the hearing. Fast and cheap). Up till now, I have gone along with it because I didn't want to rock the boat and piss her off. I haven't said anything to her yet because we're still building positive momentum and I don't want to derail that but I'm not going to agree to a dissolution anymore, at least not on Oct 16th which is our current court date.
She wants out and if she's serious, there's nothing I can do to stop her but I don't have to help her either. I don't want to intentionally make it more difficult for her but there's no reason I should try to soften the blow. And it buys me time, time to coninue this process and time for her to maybe see what's happening.
I'm going to see her this week, maybe a few times, and I've really been trying to get my head screwed on straight. No R talk, just light and fun. Treat her like we're on a date and everything is going well. Is it OK to get into the R if she asks about it?
