My wife wants out !!

[dadtotwo]

I met with my W yesterday and we sort of began the process of closure on our M. The bottom-line is that she moved out a week ago and is starting to rebuild her life. She said that there were many times she accepted that we were going to lose our house. She was waiting for me to take on additional jobs to bring money in but I never did. If I had done this she would have not lost respect for me.

It seems unfair that it all has to fall on me. I created the mess and she felt that, as the man, I should have been providing any way I could. Basically, she feels I am a good H & F but a lousy provider. The loss of trust and respect goes so deep and there is nothing I can do that would change her way of thinking.

As I have posted previously, she feels that I ruined our future together and gave her no reasons to stay as a family. Her position is that I never had a Plan B and just didn't get anything under control. She is pushing to go to a mediator to expedite our D.

I want so much to keep my family together but she doesn't. Her view is that I cannot be there to give us the financial support and because there is too much damage already done. In essence, her life is better without me in it every day and that she will rebuild on her own.

I have come to accept that such a loss of trust and respect is something that can't be overcome if she doesn't want to try. Giving up is her only solution and I must learn to live with her decision.

I really miss my family.