what is the spider/vacuum story??

give a man fish, and he will get hungry.
Teach a man to fish....

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Strange. Yes. I made that up. sigh. no Im not original. unfortunately. just STRANGE<<< so is this. Click it.

and blackfoot - you are way off on this

OK glad to hear it

trying to stay out of trouble (your sig line)

this is code for... Im trying to not commit adultery. Yes? Maybe Im way off. It happens. I enjoy it as much as everyone around me. \:\/

You know I have never -tried to not rob a bank.
In fact I would have to put some significant actions into accomplishing said bank robbing. Probably I would start off by ruminating and fantasizing about it. Some people call that 'planning'.

suggestions as to why/why not an affair in this situation
When I lose my mind with rage, I dont go around seeking opinions why I should murder the OP. I dig deep and ask myself, what I find acceptable, and then begin a series of events that lead away from and prevent that voice from getting his way.
At least thats what I would do if I found it unacceptable.


Are humans really meant to be monogomous?
What do OP have to do with this. What does that mean? MEANT to be? Are you saying you have no choice? inqiring minds want to know. There was a lady here a while back... southerngirl.... she told me 'it was inevitible'. Im not sure exactly what 'it' was though, she never clarified. Promised me answers and then left me eager and tingling with anticipation.

why is it so wrong for me to have sex on the side? Again, that is NOT my preference

If its not your preferance why do you keep coming back to it? Does you H talk about sex with OP this often?

However, I'm already at the point of walking away b/c of the sex, but I don't believe in divorce.

I wont even say it because -Im wrong. I heard you. That actually makes me happy.
Being wrong that is. Im serious.

You know, you dont have to convice me. Im nobody.

In my life, I have found identifying and accepting myself has to come first and then I can figure out what I need/ and what to do to keep from blithely and blindly fckking up my life.

Its a work in progress.

I am NOT trying to emasculate my husband
and if you fcck someone else do you think he will feel more masculine from that? loonyqt was a good nom de plume. LOL.
Would it be some faceless c*ck shot from AFF, or would you need to be attracted to this imaginary OM first? Because if its 'just sex' then you wouldnt have to worry about your feelings getting in the way and messing up your marriage.
our friend Mojo, used to talk about caring about just the sex, but recently seems to have changed her mind. Im very happy for her.


Loon, What ARE you trying to do?