Other thread locked up. No, I no longer talk to my ex-OM, and quite frankly I'm dead sick of talking about him. The ONLY time I ever even think about him is when people ask me about him on this forum.

For those just joining us here, my situation was thus:

Married H straight out of high school, one son within first year. Lived as swingers for awhile, but H hated it and asked me to stop. I never did. In February of 2006 he was away for a month for training and I met the OM. For almost a year I played the games we all do in an affair, thought I was divorcing my husband to marry OM. I got pregnant with my second son in August of '06 and left my H. Hit rock bottom, did some emotional sobering up and finally saw the affair for the illusion it was. my amazing H and I are rebuilding and the OM has no further hold on me.

I used to take the OM's calls, working through the emotional crap left behind from the affair. Not taking his calls or having any contact with him anymore.

I was the unfaithful wife, and you may all berate me for that stupidity as you wish. I do not deny my stupidity, but at least I recovered. Now I want to help someone else, anyone who wants my take on their situation. You may hate the OW/OM/WAW/WAH, but it can help a lot to know what's really going on with them. I've checked out a few threads, but please drop me a line if you'd like me to view yours.

The grass may be greener, but then again, it may also be astroturf.
~Amy C Brown