Glad to have you back Cat. I'm glad you took the mini-vacation together. You hit the nail on the head with the bitterness thing--of course you've been bitter, and with good reason! UGH. But you are one smart cookie to realize that living with bitterness is no way to live. Regardless of the end-story.
Sharing your inspirational material is certainly worth a try. I know I have considered for quite some time asking my H to pray with me on a regular basis. He's not been discouraging of this necessarily, but I find myself afraid to follow through when it comes time to kneel together, I think mainly for fear of rejection/that he'll just see it as one more way I'm trying to be "perfect"...obviously it's something I need to step up and do for ME with the hope it brings us closer together, so why is it so hard to just do?