Are you channeling? Perhaps. I do have very strong brain waves.
You mentioned a couple of things.
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and yes, he's home, and this time home is stronger than others...but MLC is still there.
And this still means there are questions about the way his MLC will eventually work its way out. We never know what someone else will do.
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Replay Iget, Depression...Yup. And I've written about those...and even at that time (I think) I said I didn't get the other stages yet...and assumed perhaps it was because I hadn't witnessed them yet.
This makes a lot of sense. And it is one of the key points. RCR can tell you about Sweetheart and their journey to this point, but past that everything is still questionable. Of course, we can all take HeartsBlessing's journey at face value too. But don't try to extend it to your situation.
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Just because Sweetheart came home and just because IMP's wife didn't...has NO bearing on whether yours will or not.
That is correct. Every relationship is different. But the funny thing is that I pretty much know what my relationship with my former Mrs will be tomorrow and the next day. Not to be insolent, but my relationship with the former Mrs IMP is more stable than pretty much any relationship I currently see on the board.
Today, I was chatting with a friend, not from DB. Actually, I met her on a dating site, and we got together a couple of times. Her father knew my father. She was from my hometown. Her H had been gone and she never expected him to return. She went on with her life and eventually he did return and has been home for 2 years. I asked her how it was going and she said he is still here and we are still trying. She also said that companionship was good and sex was sticky (which I reminded her when properly done it is...ok ok, but she meant intimacy was tough). But she still finds it a challenge and even though his job requires him being away a couple nights a week, she still finds his presence at time to be stiffling.
Human emotions is difficult to deal with. And it always will be. Make your choice. Go with it. And live the life you want to live.
