I'm new to this forum, and I haven't seen this topic anywhere. I've been separated from my husband for about a month, and he is moving in with the Other Woman this week. We've been on very friendly terms, all things considered. He is very confused -- he still loves me, but he is also in love with this woman. Things were pretty good until I started trying to talk him out of being with her, and then we'd start arguing. When that didn't work, I made the mistake of trying to woo him back by dressing sexy, and telling him that I wanted him to come home.
He had been over at the house several times a week, and I just assumed that he wanted to reconcile. Last week, he told me that he loved me, but he wasn't *in love* with me, and that he regretted ever marrying me in the first place. A lot of people started pressuring me to cut off all contact with him and file for divorce, because I was on an emotional roller coaster (LRT?). We went from being *loving but confused* to going cold-turkey.
I'm disabled, and I have no income. I will lose all my health benefits through my husband's employer if I file for separation/divorce. Our middle-school age son is extremely depressed, but he won't talk about what's going on.
I'm on Chapter 3 of the Divorce Remedy book about setting goals, but I read a little bit about the Last Resort Technique first. Did I make a mistake by jumping too quickly to the LRT?
I'd like to get back to being on friendly terms with my H, but I don't want him to get *too* comfortable with the arrangement. Now that he's moving in with the woman he's been in the EA/PA with, I hope it's not too late to reconcile.
Where can I draw the line? I want to be friendly, but not *too* friendly. This woman is putting a LOT of pressure on him to commit as quickly as possible, and he's not sure what he wants right now.
