There really isn't much anyone can tell you. Each situation is different. There are no guarantees. If you can think of a scenario, I can probably show you an example. About the only thing I can tell you for sure is the following and this is from a post I made about a year ago.
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Live your lives regardless of who is or is not in your life. Do the things which will make you successful regardless of who is or is not in your life. Set goals for yourself aside from any desires you may have about a reconciliation with your spouse or any actions you would like to see from that person. Don't spend so much time obsessing about the space your spouse occupies in this journey. If you are worrying about where someone else is in life, you deprive yourself of considering where you should be in life. Make the effort to live you life, not to live your life through someone else. Because when you keep cycling this MLC stuff, all you are doing is spinning your wheels. You see folks I have been where you have been but I was lucky enough to have people surrounding me who told me to keep moving forward rather than trying to figure guess what my spouse was thinking or feeling. It works. Give it a try.
And MrsH, if you have questions, ask. And the things you learn here should be questioned. To be honest, one of the reasons I keep coming back to this board after all this time is because I see many things said that should be questioned and are taken as gospel. Watch out for people who say one thing and do another. I want to help you keep from falling into the traps of those questionable things. You tell me what you want and I will do everything in my power to help get you there. However, I can't guarantee anything. But I can guarantee that no matter what happens in your life, the action you take towards becoming the person you want to be (and we are always becoming the people we want to be) will be a blessing to you the rest of your life.
