Puddle, sweetie, I can tell you as an almost WAW that when our S tells us or tries to "remind" of of our children and family members (to really lay a guilt trip on us).....believe me, it backfire on you. I can imagine how livid you must be at your H's behavior! I know how awful I would be, so it is just a blessing that it was me and not my H that was the WAS!
For what it is worth, take the advice that has already been given to you about being the best gal out there for him and don't use the kids to make him feel guilty or try to make him come home like a daddy and husband should....it won't work.
Yes, I can testify to the fact that we WAS are too caught up in our own feelings. We make terrible wives, husbands, parents (even grandparents)...b/c our emotions are in total control....that is why we cannot think logically. Don't you get it? We can't do it until we can see through the fog again! And then the problem is not automatic cured. It takes time....lots & lots of time. Hope you can hang in there for the long haul.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
