As soon as H came in my room he took my purse and started going thru it! M- what r u doing? H- this is what u use to do go thru my things M- what r u looking for? H- i dont know anyting u wont tell me anything Then later he sat down on my bed & I expressed how happy I was to finally go dancing tonight (mind u I told him my plans yesturday via email). H- What? How long have u been planning this? Is he going? M- I told u yesturday. A group from work is going. H- is he going? M- I looked at him and changed the subject. H- ok fine u better not be bringignhim back her to my houe and in my bed! He then took my nw comforter and sid he was throwing it out(in the rain). All the while in front of the girls and they r saying no daddy no! So he stopped.
He threw it back on the bed and then proceded to go to the kitchen where he took the water hose & aimed it w/ water to my bed. Everything got wet. I got up closed the door. after I went to the livign room where he proceded to shoot more water at me. Shouting I am not going to babysit while u go out w/ him, you whore. I said *I* am the whore???? You r livign s husband and wife w/ soemone else.Go just leave back your wife. H- NO! she isnt! <shaking his head no, no back & forth> M- I am not waiting anylonger for you,C.
Chicki,
I haven't posted to you in awhile, but I have to be honest and say that I don't think either of you have done any real growing. You are playing mind games with H, and he is still getting angry and losing his temper and control of himself. Your R has not changed at all IMHO. Do you really want you H back as he continues to act this way? Do you think getting H back via making him jealous on purpose is going to make your R healthy in the future? He will continue being a snoop, spying on you all of the time, and you will be sitting there wondering why and chastizing him for it.
I honestly believe that you need to cut off all personal communication with H until he gets IC and proves he has genuinely changed over a long period of time. Allowing him to think he can verbally abuse you, spray you and your personal items with water (and do this IN FRONT OF YOUR KIDS!), etc, and still have a R with you is unhealthy to say the least. Don't you agree? Someone has to put an end to this crazy cycle, and I 99% guarantee it isn't going to be your H. If there was ever a sitch where the LBS should be the WAS, it is here.
Are you going to continue living this way, chicki? What kind of example is this setting for the kids? Will your D's learn to put up with this kind of garbage from their own Hs?
I'm sorry if this comes across harsh, but this is the first time I've dropped by your sitch in several weeks, and it's the same old thing. I think a 2x4 is very much in order here.
