Thanks for questioning my assumption about pain. I like how you try to force the readers of this board to question things, to make sure we have evidence for our conclusions. It's easy to read things and blindly assume "that's it!" without thinking things through. People don't always like to hear what you say/ask IMP, but keep asking. That is doing a real service. There are no solutions without honest, hard analysis that may lead us to someplace we don't really want to go but may have to go anyway, because in the end we don't control the WAS.
As you say IMP, I'm glad to be working on myself no matter what happens with WAW. I am such a different, and better, person as a result of a summer's worth of hard core analysis. And I've got a lot more reading, therapy, etc. to do so by no means do I think I've got it all figured out. Like others on the board have learned, it took the separation to make me snap out of my auto pilot mode, to make the lights start to come on. I look at aspects of my old self with some real loathing and guilt for how it affected my wife. She's got some issues too, but all I can do is focus inward.
One final question on the financial stuff. Sorry for being so clueless! Am I correct to say that your advice is to talk to an attorney before moving any money, cutting off credit cards,etc?
