HS... yeah, it's taken me a lot of work (and hurt) to get to this place... and with the help of a good C, I AM finally clear on what I want in my life and am truly *getting* that I shouldn't settle. I think what's most important in that is understanding that we are responsible for setting ourselves up for success. There are still risks of course, but we do have some control. Thanks for noticing.
And you bring up a good point about perfection, and setting yourself up for failure. I think that's really important. I'm not looking for perfect in a partner and never seemed to do that. But I had to work long and hard at not expecting perfection from myself and my interactions, and I feel I've been doing incredibly well in that department. It's given me greater confidence and self-esteem to ask for what I want and not settle, and resulted in me being more successful rather than disappointed with myself and interactions. Expectations can be a killer. But don't confuse them with your standards... or as my C pointed out... don't insult your partner by not believing they are capable of better.
Jules!!!! Thank you, girlie! I will. Glad you found that funny too. I'm not holding that analogy against him.... I might say something just as funny. Yeah, I'm not sold either. He needs to put his money where his mouth is. Need to see action. Love you! You have a great day as well!!
Me: 37 M: 14 yrs Separated 10/06; Filed for D 12/07 Life is good.
