Yes IKWYM but I have never been good at ripping off Bandaids all at once. I remember early on when I was going to a C and she said something about being worried I was "cutting off the dog's tail an inch at a time" (one of her Southernisms, probably) but understanding that I had to get thru this my own way in my own time. I've said before I thought it was like they say about weight loss -- that if you lose a little at a time, it's more likely to stay off. I'd like to think I'm a slow healer but a good healer. Maybe same w/ you.
As I mentioned elsewhere I found a retreat that seems like it may be helpful and decided to go on it. I haven't ever gone on one before and am a bit apprehensive b/c of that but I think it's something I need now. It's thru the Church and is geared toward S, D and widowed Catholics, most participants will be D women.
If you guys decide on NY please let me know as I may be able to join you, you never know.
