HELLO DARKNESS MY OLD FRIEND

[inmyplace]

goal,

Absolutely fantastic post. Anything I could add, would only detract from it.

IMP

[goal]

Inmyplace,

Thank you. I enjoy your posts also.

[inmyplace]

Thank you.

goal, the reason I like your message so much is that so few are willing to take such risks. And I believe one of the biggest risks we take in life is the failure to take risk.

IMP

[HalfMissing]

Goal, I am so happy for you. I am also in this place and it feels wonderful. I have made so many new friends though my divorce recovery group. I feel hope and am feeling alive again. I still feel pain or sadness at times but they are not related to H. I believe they are growing pains.

[goal]

Inmyplace,

The reason I am doing what I am is because I could not live with myself catering to my H when he is doing such evil. I hated it. I could not fake being nicey nice to someone like that. Even though I still love him, I don't like him. I believe in consequences, it is what I teach my children. I was not being an example by acting like his adultery was not serious.

My H never apologized or repented for destroying his family. Until he does this, he will never see or hear from me again.

Thanks for supporting me. Many of my friends and family do not.
Sometimes I feel very alone and scared, but I have to look in the mirror.

[goal]

Half,

I'm proud of you. It is a place we need to be. Yes, it is painful, but that is how we change and grow. Our H's are avoiding this pain, that is why they are stuck and miserable in their skin.

[Grace_O]

Beautifully said. Thank you.

[goal]

Now the games begin......

H trying very hard to convince my children to live with him, especially my son. Now that he cannot go through me, he is going through my children, telling them utter total lies about everything

any advice?

[inmyplace]

any advice?

Rat poison!

Document, document, document. And ask your attorney what to do. They have seen it a million times.

IMP

[goal]

I have not been posting because all has been relatively quiet with my sitch. My H still refuses to settle. He has not caused too much havoc lately.

This is all been so surprising because H wanted to settle no matter what. He had stated he did not care if he lost everything. He just wanted to move on and get me out of his life.