I'm not attracted to any man who signals Republican, conservative Christian, golf, sports bar, suburban tract house with wall-to-wall carpeting, fast food, World's Funniest Videos etc. Monkey-girl is so bored and scratchy with that guy she is crying. I would have to become an alcoholic if I found myself married to that guy.
Darn, See knew I didn't have a chance with you MoJo! J/K
I notice women checking me out on the street and it has a pattern. From a distance of about half a block there is a noticing and then as the distance closes the woman will look away usually with a coy smile, then at the last second paths cross there is eye contact and a smile.
I think in general women have "types" but are probably a way more specific and selective than men and I just fit some womens type or maybe I'm as handsome as my mom says....
Of course most of the women if they ever talked to me would no longer find me attractive because I truly think that Americas Funniest Home Video is a brilliant television show that predates the rise in user generated content seen on the internet by at least a decade.
I'm not attracted to any man who signals Republican, conservative Christian, golf, sports bar, suburban tract house with wall-to-wall carpeting, fast food, World's Funniest Videos etc.
Republican: time for a change conservative Christian: don't get me started golf: yawn, nothing beats a good game of sand v-ball sports bar: yawn, I mean "go team" suburban house: neighbors who can see in your windows AND you still have to fight traffic for something to do ... blech wall-to-wall carpeting: fun if you like to shock people, but give me the feel of hardwood anyday fast food: Chick-fil-A is pretty good World's funniest videos: I prefer Most Extreme Elimination Challenge
Of course the most important question in my mind is why am I not having sex right now? Oh yeah, rejected again. The wolf rests for another day.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
Hey, Chrome, at least you've GOT your wolf on. Go snarl in the mirror, and mean it.
Hmmmmmmm ... trying to think of a good example. A guy who explains why Sergeant Pepper was a seminal album with a spark in his eye is passionate about his subject; that's attractive. A guy who explains why Sergeant Pepper was a seminal album for a half an hour straight and then changes the subject within two minutes when you try to talk about *your* favorite music is narcissistic. That's extreme but you get the idea.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
Hey, Chrome, at least you've GOT your wolf on. Go snarl in the mirror, and mean it.
I might get attracted to myself and ...
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A guy who explains why Sergeant Pepper was a seminal album for a half an hour straight and then changes the subject within two minutes when you try to talk about *your* favorite music is narcissistic.
D@mn people like that are fcuking annoying ... I HATE that. OK, got the picture.
And I'll bet if you mentioned some music you liked and the guy listened with a gleam in his eye and then went on about how great it is and you got into a "I SO TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU!" type discussion ... bingo.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
And I'll bet if you mentioned some music you liked and the guy listened with a gleam in his eye and then went on about how great it is and you got into a "I SO TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU!" type discussion ... bingo.
Actually, sometimes it's more sexy if somebody expresses honest disagreement or ignorance about a topic in a respectful manner. I think men, although perhaps not as strongly, are attracted to women with a sense of purpose or self also. I've noticed that whenever men get me on the topic of my business and I get a bit animated talking about it when I come out of my fugue state (lol) the guy will be smiling at me.
One of the best things I read in one of my dating books is that a woman should look for a man who has more pleasure than pain in his life. Probably a good rule for men too. I don't know what drives us to sometimes want to "rescue" or perhaps "over-protect" other people but it's definitely not a good tendency. Actually, I do know what it is in my case. It's that darn cow. Lately I've been thinking that my cow does a cr*ppy job of protecting my bunny. All she cares about is protecting whatever cute little puppy dog crosses my path. For instance, on our second date NG told me that he was going to talk to his 11 year old son about the bird and the bees. He said he was going to talk to him about relationships too and he said he was going to try to teach him how to avoid getting his heart broken. I KNOW that I am a soft-touch and a "nice girl" and way too cow etc. but I can't help it. Once a guy says or signals something like that to me, I can't help but seeing him as a broken-hearted 11 year old puppy dog and it's really not a good thing. I was talking to my LD rather hard*ss sister (probably most like Cobra's wife) about this and she said that she never felt that way toward men. I found that quite interesting. The other thought I had on the matter was that probably directing my cow energy towards the man actually makes me more clingy pursuer fused in a relationship because my bunny is left unprotected. I think it's always a problem for sex if the woman sees the man as too much of a little boy but women who tend towards LD find it a turn-off and women who are HD don't find it a turn-off but react to it in a way that turns off the man. Basically what I tend to do is send the cow/lioness out to rescue or protect the puppy dog so the monkey can still be attracted to the wolf/lion but that leaves my bunny out of the loop or something like that. I'm sure you all understand exactly what I mean.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Actually, sometimes it's more sexy if somebody expresses honest disagreement or ignorance about a topic in a respectful manner. I think men, although perhaps not as strongly, are attracted to women with a sense of purpose or self also. I've noticed that whenever men get me on the topic of my business and I get a bit animated talking about it when I come out of my fugue state (lol) the guy will be smiling at me.
Agreed, very few people would be attracted to a "yes man" approach, especially if it is clear they know nothing about what they are agreeing to.
And agreed. I have found women who are assertive about what they like are attractive to me. Really, I'd say the most unattractive thing to me is someone not caring, one way or another, someone who is detached from the situation, or obviously not enjoying spending time with me. I don't care how good looking they are on the outside, if they don't want to hang with me, I don't want to hang with them. That is one thing I'm still fighting in my M recovery, the fact that my W would rather sit in front of a computer and piddle for 3 hours than sit and cuddle/make out with me. It activates my "well screw you then, I'm doing something else" attitude, which is not conducive to a validating cycle. Although I do admit I find it hard to be validating while someone is idly pouring through the internet with nothing specific in mind to find. I just keep telling myself she needs a release from all the touchy/feeling/needy/crying stuff she gets from the kids all day.
I have notice though that the few times I've managed to coax her onto the couch for a makeout session, every time it has led to sex, despite the fact that wasn't my intention (well, any more than normal ... I'm a guy after all).
As far as the other paragraph Mojo, I'll admit I don't follow much of the animal stuff. Maybe if you worded it with astronomy lingo ...
Basically what I tend to do is send the black hole out to rescue or protect the red giant so the supernova can still be attracted to the galaxy/quasar but that leaves my white dwarf out of the loop or something like that. I'm sure you all understand exactly what I mean.
There ... that's better ...
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
Basically what I tend to do is send the black hole out to rescue or protect the red giant so the supernova can still be attracted to the galaxy/quasar but that leaves my white dwarf out of the loop or something like that. I'm sure you all understand exactly what I mean.
Yea, them blue screen crashes and general fault errors are real bummers!
Well Chomme, I understand MoJo's cow part 100%. The different roles that the bunny, monkey, and lioness play are not as clearly definable.
I was doing some clutter control this morning and came across my first grade report card. Here is what my teacher wrote (Note: I had severe asthma for which I had to be hospitalized frequently as a child):
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FALL: Even with Jenny's many illnesses, she still continues to do well. If I could just find a way to build a fire under her that would speed her along- then we would be all set! Kidding aside, Jenny could use her classroom time for more work and less dreaming. Maybe it takes reminding, if so, she gets it every day. SPRING: What a girl! Jenny has been absent so much and yet she has succeeded so well. I have no problems that I am concerned about and I just wish I could have her again. Dad, get her that sketchpad and paints! She deserves it!
I think this would be an interesting exercise for anyone to do. It's pretty clear what aspects of my personality are immutable.
1) It is a laughing matter to consider it necessary to light a fire under me.
2) I am an absent-minded, day dreamer, especially when the alternative is something like first grade course work.
3) I am capable of functioning at a high level despite these faults.
4) I want to be rewarded for good behavior with things/experiences that are like a brand new sketchpad and box of paints.
The problem is Daddy is dead and although my 2bx would on occasion write me notes that said "IOU 10 years of fun." he never followed through on those kind of promises. I also had the breakthrough notion that maybe the reason why my bunny frequently seems so sad and weak to me is that she is a little girl alone in an oxygen tent gasping for air. It also occurred to me that Daddy would buy me lots of fun toys when I was in the hospital, stuck in a little cage with needles in my arm unable to climb trees or dig to China in the sandbox or try to make an explosion with my chemistry set or suggest to my sisters "Let's put on a show!".
Other notes:
1) Interesting how my first grade teacher seemed to "get" that my father was the primary parent to address.
2)Clearly my 2bx felt compelled to take on the job of being my "reminder" but he did it in a mean or at least nonconstructive way. OTOH my high functioning Type 9 D16 called me to pick her up from a sleepover yesterday morning. I,of course, drove on auto-pilot to the house of her friend she most frequently visits rather then the girl she was actually visiting. When I arrived a bit late to pick her up and explained, my D said "Yeah, I knew you would do that." and laughed and then said "Mom, Mom, Mom" shaking her head and gave me a pat.
3) I so f*cking deserve that sketchpad and paints but I guess I'm going to have to get them for myself. Maybe I can figure out a way to get them that isn't - Sketchpad and Paints = Hot Monkey Sex with Semi-famous Artist.
4) Probably people can't "change" but what they can do is "mature" and what that entails is stuff like being your own "reminder" and buying your own "sketchpad and paints" instead of relying on Teacher and Daddy.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
