Hey, my beloved aunt 70 had an affair during her marriage to my wonderful deceased uncle. She is also a prodigal wife. They had issues with fertility and language and sex. She hooked up with a hot much younger American teenager and introduced this teenager's twin brother to her married sister who had a kid. My aunt's husband found out about it and bribed her to come back. My uncle said he would take her dancing every weekend, he would lose weight, stop watching TV, learn Spanish, they could get transfered to Europe, and finally adopt. He never asked for anything in return except for her return to the R. He never even forbade her from seeing the teenager! She loved her H so much for that. Now he has passed on and she misses his loyalty like crazy. She still sees that teenager because now he is my other Uncle. Yes, her married sister is my MIL and that twin's brother is my FIL and that baby they had out of wedlock is my H. Funny. Both sisters had affairs. One went back to the H and one married the OM. But everyone respected my deceased Uncle for never acting jealous or controlling. He gave my Aunt the choice and she chose him. Thank goodness because her OM has been divorced three times and ended up a shmuck! What about my MIL, her first husband abandoned her with a baby in a foreign country so that is why she married my FIL.
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If your uncle felt that his actions were best for him, God bless him. I would not feel the same way, as I imagine most people wouldn't. IMO your Aunt is a horrible human being, but that's just my opinion. I think the point that I've tried to make that often gets lost, is that when your spouse leaves or is threatening to leave, many people want their spouse back at any cost. This is true because they have been beaten down so much emotionally that they lose all perspective on balance, respect, and fairness (especially self respect). However, if their spouse DOES come back, eventually all the of the things that the WAS did during the time or leaving or thinking about leaving will have to be dealt with. Often, after regaining their self esteem and perspective, the things that the LBS accepted come back to haunt them and make them unhappy and/or resentful. That's the great danger of accepting certain actions.
