Lisa, I had a friend who was a drug adict. she was my best friend really. I tried to help her. I flew to Philadelphia just to try to help her get her house together and help her kids get to camp. I also tried to get her to go into rehab. It almost worked but the day I flew back she decided not to go.
I was desperate to help her. SHe was NUTSO. Totallyt paranoid and crazy and everyone in her life, especially her kids, suffered from her addiction.
I called Narcanon and they told me I had to let her go--sink or swim. That the more I tried to "help" the more I was enabling her.
She finally really hit bottom, I mean in a big, bad way. Only then did she realize all she had lost (her kids were taken away from her, she had no money, she was taken advantage of terribly by some very low life guys). She got help finally. She has been sober for almost 4 years now, but it was hell. It took us a while to get our relationship back on a firm footing again too.
The point is, you cannot help him and in fact by trying you could be prolonging his problems. He needs to do this himself. I suggest going to or calling some addictions programs and getting advice.
