HELLO DARKNESS MY OLD FRIEND

[I_Still_Love_Him]

Goal,

What a wonderful post. It is what most of us have gone through and feel. The words, your thoughts, the feelings are right on.

Like you I continue to think of H whether I see him or not, as the man I knew and not who he is now. That is when I realize that they are aliens now and maybe they'll be returned to us a better person. If not, well, the OW can keep them.

I guess we never really know where our life will take us. What will happen or how we will respond to all the changes. I can only hope that I will have the ability to please my God and make him proud of me. I would only hope that I could be the very best example for my children.

You have made Him proud. You are a better, stronger, smarter, more beautiful person because of this experience. You are a great example to your children.

I also know that no matter what I say or do, it won't help this situation. He has to find his way on his own. He has to want his family back without any convincing on my part for this to work. He has to make the decision to love me again, to respect me again, and to work on a marriage again.

Agree 100%. I had finally come to the same conclusion. I do not see my H as being happy with OW, he will give himself a heart attack due to the weight gain but we have to let them find their way. Only if they come back without any pressure from us can the M work.

So I have gotten a life. I smile now and sometimes catch myself laughing. It no longer bothers me to go on walks alone or to be around intact families. Days do not go by so slow. I sleep and eat like a normal human being. I feel good about myself, sometimes even sexy. Time does heal. I have truly let go of my H and I am still living and breathing.

The place where you have finally arrived to is what is important. When you are feeling good about yourself, everything else that is good will follow. You ARE a success.

Thank you for this wonderful post.

Hugs,
ISLH