WHEN MOST COUPLES MARRY, UNLESS THEY HAVE AN OPEN MARRIAGE, IT IS AGREED UPON THAT AFFAIRS ARE NOT ALLOWED. Furthermore, outside of abuse it's a well known fact that the WORST thing you can possibly do to someone is marry them and then have an affair.
No one, including me will disagree with you here yet A do happen whether EA or PA while still together. Even knowing that our S's have had an A, many LBS still choose to stand for their M and give it a second chance. The choice is ours.
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Based on this logic, PG is deliberately disrespecting her husband, her marriage, and herself by continuing contact with OM.
Disrespect...I agree with you here but again, her H is making the choice to stand by her.
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AND IT IS HURTING HER HUSBAND.
We can say we imagine it hurts her H as we certainly would feel hurt. I don't think that we can speak for him.
Bottom line is what she did is wrong. The fact that she is still talking to OM is also wrong. If she is being honest to her H, her M and herself, and wants to save her M, she needs to shift her priority from herself to her M which includes her H. How her H and she choose to work it out is up to them.
Don't know if you've followed frank_D's sitch. If not, you should. I'm sure you would've disagreed with how he handled his sitch as he watched his W continue with the A while they were together. Yes, when the time WAS RIGHT he set the boundaries if they were to save their M and today they are back together.
Me: 49 - S22 & S26 H: 41 - No kids M: 10/00 Bomb New Year's Day 2006 H living w OW 01/07; have baby 12/07 D final 07/07 Thread #9 - Hope Lives On
