If you want him back he has to prove to you by his actions he means it.Keep on looking out for you and GALing - that's what your H has come back to; that's what's attracting him.
Personally I had to be involved with dumping of OW. I listened to the phone calls my H made and I saw the emails he wrote. He also showed me anything she sent him.
We had no secrets and rolled with the punches.
Laying yourself open and putting yourself in a position where you may get hurt again is frightening but the benefits CAN be wonderful.
AS the control moves from him to you I am sure your emotions will swing backwards and forwards.Gradually things will then start to balance out. Piecing is not easy - personally I think I shall always have to 'work' at our marriage. I didn't before the A and that's probably why it started. I rationalise that it feels like work because how I act now is not the way I would initially act naturally. However, I believe in time the changes to my actions will become second nature and so feel less like work as I go on. Does that make sense? Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
