Now I've done it

[nephartiti]

Husband left 2 weeks ago and has only called to see kids once. Says there's no OW, but I know there is. H bought a new cell phone with a 2 year contract the day after he left. Guess what. He called her 20 times yesterday.

Don't ask how I found all this out. That's where I mess up. I saw the charge on the bank acct, confronted him, he denied it. Said he bought something for computer. I tracked down the number and I called him. I think I may be a stalker. Damn me! I know I am pursuing him, and that is the exact reason he keeps on running. I'm obsessed! I keep badgering him to tell me the truth, but he just keeps lying, and lying quite badly I might add.

How does one separate the finances and cell phones without falling into the heated argument trap. I'm really stressed about how we are going to live separately. He won't return my calls.


Then I came up with some BS story to get him to come see the kids. Said he was coming but never showed. That was 4 hrs ago. I'm such an idiot! He is so done with me! Trying to do a 180 for my own sanity and my kids. I know they need me, but I spend too much time and energy chasing H. That leaves them without a mother or a father. Gotta get my head straight. Have to detach and let him go.

Any advice on how to follow through and get through these weak moments would be so appreciated.


I want to go dark, but want to get the finances sorted first.

Any advice on how to approach without seeming desperate?