I totally agree with Nephartiti too. Still, I would have like to have gone though. I would have even like to go in the same car. My H and I love each others' company just liek you two! Weird huh?
Remember Going Dark has a dimmer switch but Plan B does not so it depends where you are.
If you are still in Acting As If mode or Plan A then agreeing with everything and being positive is all good. It is not about cake, it is about showing how green your grass is and how positive life with the family can be. That part is not about accountability or any expectations.
But Plan B is different and Going Dark is about cutting them off and letting their affair die because LBS is no longer meeting a large percentage of their emotional needs. The OP will have to meet that and then the affair implodes or the WS misses the LBS hopefully.
I am a Libra so I have a hard time sticking to one Plan. I kind of Acted As If today but lwb told me to Stay Dark but be positive when I had to see him so I did that but I will (try) not do any family things while he is having an affair. Well, that is my goal.
Last edited by mkultra; 09/02/0704:47 AM.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
