W8ing, Oh yeah, you'll love this - as if he's not MLC...
H will still be at ss apt (somewhat) because now tonight I found out that h has been crashing at an old work acquaintance's condo (divorced dad) who has an extra room! I do not know this person or never heard of him before! Talk about capt. insano...
Try not to rally the troops. Try to act as if he is still an important part of your life. It is not so great that he turns to another divorce for support. You are really going to have to DB like gangbusters. Transitional friends can be a bad influence. You have to outshine their appeal. Live like their is no way he can paint a bad picture of you. Imagine his divorced and transitional friends saying, "Dude, what the heck are you doing? Your wife and home are awesome. Wish I had that!" Visualize living up to that.
Make the path back to you a safe and positive one. Think of that dog analogy where the dog runs away and the owner chases it so the dog runs faster. The owner leaves it alone but then punishes it when it comes home. The dog learns not to come home. Instead, when he dog runs away, the owner leaves it alone until the dog gets hungry and sad and the dog comes home and the owner rewards it with love and food. The dog stays and does not run away. Paraphrasing. I am bad at that. My dog is getting fed somewhere else though!
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
