ERC, just dropping by to say Hi! Keep focusing on the kids, they keep us sane. You're doing great not to console W right now, it's so damn tempting to jump in and play the rescuer but you are right not to do so. She's made her bed, now she can lie in it. I know myself that I look at the life W is setting up for herself by buying me out of the home and I think "you're in for one heck of a time" but she will have to deal with her own financial hardship, not me. It's so tempting to want to help her out but it sure wouldn't be the tough love that is called for. Hang in there. Recently a friend, who has been through far worse than me, said "I just want you to remember, that no matter how bad it gets, it will get better" I pass those words through my mind daily right now. I hope this same thought will help you now too. Take care.
