Hey Xue just dropped in for a look at whats happening on your side of the world. Seems to be you are back in the pit of thought - remember behaviour speaks louder and non of us can inside someone else's head things worked better for you when you watched rather than thought about why and things changed when you did stuff for you too much intellect stop being clever about it all Xue human emotions are much simpler than you are thinking go back to basics
I might be wrong here (after a quick look at all the posts) but your intellectualising again
close your eyes and feel then open them and watch stick with what works
bj
ps I love that you are so intellectual sure you don't have a twin in Australia he and I could have great conversations