"We are in the business of raising children, nothing more." That is her quote, not mine.
I don't know your W's history but you and her married 'late' in life and very soon had 2 kids. You said the kids were her world and you were put and left on the outside. Other things you have said made me comment to you once that it almost seemed that W wanted kids, married you, had 2 kids and got what she wanted from you, and she no longer needed to be married and 'share HER' kids with you anymore.
We can all look back at what we wrote and see how we could have should have done things different but in real time we can only react to what is happening at the time. I would like a redo on many of my interactions with H but even with all the fancy technology that isn't an option. I think the biggest mistake you made was moving out per your W's request. Then the 2nd biggest mistake you made was moving back home for a weekend and then back to your apartment. I understand your reasons for this, and I don't say this now to cause pain...I've said it to you before. Again, if we could rewind and edit and get do overs there's a good chance none of us would be here.
Being done is your choice. Being bitter is also a choice. Don't be bitter. It's a bad taste!
Just my input from someone who has read your sitch from the start.
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In the end most turn out as wishful thinking by the author.
OUCH. But I agree. I know that my frame of mind or PMA makes a big difference in how my posts come across or are perceived by a reader. It's so hard to capture the real feeling of each 24 day. But hey! you know me...I hope. Now I hope that my wishful thinking helps me keep going. Thank you for more insight.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
