Get me on a smoother ride........Need Advice

[SueS]

You have this perfect knack for doing what Pamar is suggesting, flirting, being mysterious, getting him to pull you towards him, then pulling back without hurting him, just making him want more. Problem is, I get to where H is pulling me towards him and I am goo in his hands. DER! I just miss his physical being, not even just sex, you know? Need to work on the pulling away more. Can you hold a workshop?

Trust me, I think that all that I've done has just been luck or by chance. I am not one to hold a workshop. I melt too when he touches me. Then he turns his back and hugs his side of the bed and I'm almost choking holding back the tears.

Pamar- Thank you by the way for your thoughts. I do appreciate it. I just hadn't gotten the chance to tell you.

I didn't think I'd be able to post today. A few weeks ago my H had mentioned being invited to a concert with a buddy. I'm trying to trust that it's actually who he says it is. He goes golfing with this guy all the time. I heard them talking about golf & this concert during the same call, so I think I believe him. Well, I was sitting here this morning wondering what we were going to do today. H was laying in bed and asked what time it was. He said....I need to go get my hair cut and then it's off to golf & then the concert.....and then to....and he mentioned a gentleman's club. He smiled. He knows that even though those places don't truly bother me, I just prefer not to think of another woman rubbing any part of her body on him. He's always teased me about going to those clubs just to get a rise out of me. So, I guess D3 and I are on our own today. Wouldn't have been such a big letdown if he'd reminded me withing the past few days. I knew the look of dissapointment was about to come over my face, so I left the room before he could see me.

However, I do have to say that last night was nice. H called before leaving work to see if I wanted anything on his way home. He cooked dinner & after D3 went to bed we watched a movie. Well, I watched it....he reviewed his fantasy football stuff. Oh, we watched Sideways by the way. It's a funny movie....but also a great one to show the hurt, lies, deception...etc. that happens in relationships. Later we sat on the deck listening to music....I kind of invited myself out there, but the he started talking to me, so I guess it wasn't a problem. We'd talked about buying the place we're living in and last night he mentioned some things he wants US to do to it if we do buy it. No sex last night.....Sorry, no details today. But that's okay. I was happy with the good talking.

OOOOOHHHHHH....especially to lwb & husband......my H does know about my BIL & SIL possibly getting a D. They were planning on coming to visit in Nov. He told me that they probably won't be because they might be in D court by then. I acted shocked and said....they've mentioned it so many times though. He said.....yeah, that's this week. My SIL sounded pretty at peace with her decision, so I don't think my H knows that it's a lot more likely to happen this time. He just said that his B hadn't gotten into details. So anyway, WHEW!!...it doesn't look like their situation is affecting his thoughts.

Well, I need to run. I don't want to be on when he gets back.

I'll try to get on later this weekend. Have a great one & thanks again for listening.

SueS