And I'll bet if you mentioned some music you liked and the guy listened with a gleam in his eye and then went on about how great it is and you got into a "I SO TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU!" type discussion ... bingo.
Actually, sometimes it's more sexy if somebody expresses honest disagreement or ignorance about a topic in a respectful manner. I think men, although perhaps not as strongly, are attracted to women with a sense of purpose or self also. I've noticed that whenever men get me on the topic of my business and I get a bit animated talking about it when I come out of my fugue state (lol) the guy will be smiling at me.
One of the best things I read in one of my dating books is that a woman should look for a man who has more pleasure than pain in his life. Probably a good rule for men too. I don't know what drives us to sometimes want to "rescue" or perhaps "over-protect" other people but it's definitely not a good tendency. Actually, I do know what it is in my case. It's that darn cow. Lately I've been thinking that my cow does a cr*ppy job of protecting my bunny. All she cares about is protecting whatever cute little puppy dog crosses my path. For instance, on our second date NG told me that he was going to talk to his 11 year old son about the bird and the bees. He said he was going to talk to him about relationships too and he said he was going to try to teach him how to avoid getting his heart broken. I KNOW that I am a soft-touch and a "nice girl" and way too cow etc. but I can't help it. Once a guy says or signals something like that to me, I can't help but seeing him as a broken-hearted 11 year old puppy dog and it's really not a good thing. I was talking to my LD rather hard*ss sister (probably most like Cobra's wife) about this and she said that she never felt that way toward men. I found that quite interesting. The other thought I had on the matter was that probably directing my cow energy towards the man actually makes me more clingy pursuer fused in a relationship because my bunny is left unprotected. I think it's always a problem for sex if the woman sees the man as too much of a little boy but women who tend towards LD find it a turn-off and women who are HD don't find it a turn-off but react to it in a way that turns off the man. Basically what I tend to do is send the cow/lioness out to rescue or protect the puppy dog so the monkey can still be attracted to the wolf/lion but that leaves my bunny out of the loop or something like that. I'm sure you all understand exactly what I mean.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
