There and Back, #4

[nephartiti]

I really feel for you. I'm new here, so maybe I'm wrong to try to give advice when my situation is just as screwy. I don't have any resources except my gut reaction that it is definitely too soon to drop this on the kids.

It sounds like you're between a rock and a hard place because, if he's like my H, he says it's really about you being jealous and selfish, not really about what's best for the kids.

Truth is, kids need time, safety, security. Their lives are already turned upside down. Need time to adjust before more changes. Doesn't matter what resources you have, sounds like he's going to fight you tooth and nail anyway.

I, personally would remind him that he is responsible for his own choices. He married you and had children with you of his own free will. He chose to leave, not you. Where he is at, is the result of his choices. His children's feelings should come first, that's the role of a parent. He doesn't like it at his mom's, sorry.

Take responsibility for yourself, but not him. There has to be accountability.

Stay strong