I do agree with you that it is a decision to answerer or not. But... Telling your spouse not to answer will get you nowhere. They need to be the one to decide otherwise they will always have that "what if" thing going on in their mind. I did not check to see if my W was or is still calling the OM this is my decision So I decided if I got hurt or not.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
