Corri, what are you suggesting exactly? That my H acknowledges that his behavior hurts me, that he contineus to do it and that I do what?
Yes. And his behavior hurts you because of YOUR beliefs, not his. And he is not willing to accept your beliefs as his, so therefore... it is YOUR hurt.
I am not saying that is pretty. Or anything else. But you CAN make a decision on THAT... if you really believe in YOUR beliefs, AND you can let him have his...
But... insofar as I can see... you are not willing to do that. THAT is where the problem enters.
I will explain my rational, eventually... I am not here to frustrate you, though I can tell you are feeling that way. You can't get out of your own way to HEAR it. THAT is what I am seeking.
There is no problem here, other than what you are creating and anticipating. And THAT is the problem.
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Well, that's what YOU are making it about. I'm willing to bet the farm that he doesn't see it that way.
Since I can only manage myself, what's the point of dwelling on how he may or may not see things? Remember-I'm not asking permission to feel the way I do and like I said above, H has not really stated any kind of defendable position on the issue. He's only confirmed that he can see where I'm coming from and then tried to rationalize the behavior.
The PROBLEM is, you have not made it clear to HIM, in a way HE gets it. You NOT enforcing this so called boundary of yours makes it even fuzzier for him.
THAT is the problem.
Let me ask you. When you found that 18 and Fuckable porn flick of his... what did you do with it?
