If you want to f#ck your husband then f#ck your husband.
Trying this sounds appealing, but then he is going to take this as 'oh good, she's over this and we can get back to normal...until she has the next mood swing anyway'. Then when we sit on the couch he will be thinking we can be cuddly and he can feel comfortable trying to solicit sex from me in his recently normal way, which is to indicate he wants it and wait for me to initiate. When I am feeling ok toward him, I don't mind this at all. However, if I just want to f#ck my H when I feel like it and I'm still not in the place where I can smile fondly upon his needs and give hugs and hold hands.....I don't want to be a 'taker'.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
